Singaporean Men.

So I haven't dated any Singaporean men in the last 10 years my husband and I have been married and the 3 years we were together before that. Many of them are friends, relatives, colleagues, associates, etc though. And most of them are good people. 

But would I marry any? Would I allow my daughters to marry any? NOOooOo. Here's why:

1. They all go through the mandatory military service. The pseudo ah-boys to men process. Yes it creates the illusion that they're more resourceful than they really are, just cause you go camping & bootcamp, rough it out for a year in their soft, privileged lives. They think they're oh so much tougher & so much more capable than women. Just listen to their macho army stories. I heard a lot from my university friends who were guys just fresh out of the army. (They enlist after Junior College but before Univeristy.)

2. A few categories come to mind: The Kiasu/kiasee and The Ah Beng.

Mr Kiasu/Kiasaee is so risk averse, safe & gutless that you may as well marry a cardboard cutout. However, he will be ruthless at buffet food tables.

Mr. Ah Beng is so over the top in everything that he does- he's like the Yankii guy you'd be too embarrassed to be seen in public with.

The smaller categories are the rich spoiled man-princess, the banana, the angmoh who baaaaadly wants to be Singaporean (or just get Singaporean booty), the man who thinks he's just beautiful just because he's just above the average male. There are also the half angmohs who get all the chicks & and they're drowning in it.  

3. Gutlessness. Years and years of groupthink will do that to you. 

There are of course, exceptions to the stereotype & variations in the spectrum of conformity to the stereotype. Hard to find these men, but they're worth it. 😘