Closeted Indians cosplaying Americans.

My older daughter (in an International school in Singapore) has been best friends for about 2 years with an American girl from New York, whose parents are Indian-born with a green card. Meaning that they were born in India & went to the USA for college & and then they work there. I got to know the girl's mom, F, who moved to The US with her parents from India when she was a teenager. Her parents are from Tamil Nadu & they're muslim. The girl's father, V, is from Kolkata/ Bombay, his parents sent him to college in the US. Anyway- like many Indians in the US they both went to ivy league schools etc etc and they work in big consulting firms. Etc etc.  

So, here's the thing: This 9yr old girl's father V, will not allow her to go to any sleepovers in other people's homes. BUT other people's daughters can come to sleepovers in THEIR home. I don't know what's in her parents' minds. You want us to trust our daughters to go to your home but you won't trust your daughter in ours? Very odd.  

But this little girl insists she's american. She can't speak any Indian language, can't eat any Indian food. But get this: she says "This is something that my father is very proud of." V is proud that his daughter is AMERICAN and unable to identify as Indian.

The girl's mom, my friend F, gushes over husband V a LOT. That he belongs to a certain caste starting with a G that only boasts 7 families in the whole wide world. She freaked a mutual friend out- an American woman, P who is married to an Indian guy (from the same "G" caste as F's husband) when she approached him and said "Oh hey I was just looking at the class list and I saw your surname" casually. This mutual friend, P, an American woman from Pittsburgh, just said yes and stayed well away from her. This American woman P, later told me that she felt she did not like the strange vibes from those comments.  

So what is it with this caste partiality if you're AMERICAN, then? 

People from Tamil Nadu can be lower castes, to my limited knowledge. And there's no way a son from a Kolkata high caste (7 only in the whole wide world) family will ever marry a muslim lower caste Tamil Nadu born woman UNLESS they were outside India, in the US, she has that US citizenship that many Indians desire with all their heart and soul. HE WANTS THAT!  

Stop pining for that US green card! You guys can't get any more blatant, you're becoming a meme.

This girl is not allowed to eat pork because her mom is muslim. OK, fine. But this little girl is in denial that she's muslim though. Her Mother has never told her why she can't eat pork. She has no idea why she doesn't speak her parents' language and has no idea what India is all about. Shame. That is a shame because India is so culturally rich and its civilisation historically one of the oldest surviving on earth.

But I'm thinking that her self-hating parents must be ashamed of a lot of things about being Indian, too. And sadly they've passed it down to their kids.